Would you expect your pils to visit you if you were in hospital?

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I am 37 weeks pg and last week was admitted to hospital for 4 days with placenta praevia. They then did another scan which showed the placenta had moved and I was discharged.

I am lucky as I had frequent visitors, my dh, parents, friends and colleagues but I didn't hear at all from pils, not even a text (mil and i do text occasionally). They were on holiday for most of the time i was in but would have drove back past the hospital on their way home- but when I asked dh if they would call in they said they weren't coming that way back as they were going to a special fishmongers (?!). This just left me feeling a bit but I am a bit teary anyway because of the whole late pregnancy thing.

On the last few times I have seen mil she has been telling me about the texts she gets from her other dil who is in the process of divorcing her other ds, so I find it a bit strange that she didn't text me in this situation, but maybe I am expecting too much?

No I wouldn't - not for just a 4 day visit, even if they hadn't been on holiday for most of it.

Hell no! And that's a good thing

Colleagues??
I actually dread ever having to be in hospital as I know there are people who would insist on visiting and I'd have to insist on them not!

I think I'm with KellyHopter on this one. The idea of work colleagues or not very close friends coming to see me in hospital would probably set back my recovery by weeks. Whenever I've been in it was because of an operation or giving birth. I felt and looked rubbish and wouldn't want anyone that I wasn't very, very comfortable with to see me. The idea of making small talk in my pyjamas would be exhausting. That would include in laws too.

Hell no. My PIL didn't stay down when my DH has surgery, so v unlikely to come for me!

I would pray to all heavens they wouldn't.

No. My MIL is lovely and I wouldn't mind if she came to visit me in the hospital, but I wouldn't expect her to and I don't think she would come unless invited. She's very good that way, probably because her MIL was an evil cow to her from what I've heard.

Definitely not.
Nor would I expect my parents to visit either, to be honest.
I don't think I'd have told them/anyone for 4 days though.
I'd visit them if they were in hospital, I think.
DH has been in hospital a fair bit over the last few years, neither set of parents have visited him.
I don't think they dislike us, they just expect us to get on with it.
I hope all goes well with the rest of your pregnancy.

I had a couple of lovely colleagues visit me in hospital when I was seriously ill. I hadn't had a hair wash in a couple of weeks (I wasn't actually able to get out of bed at the time) and must have looked and possibly smelt horrific. And I was hooked up to a blood transfusion at the time, which they found distressing to see. I wasn't up to making conversation and although I was very grateful that they made the effort to come, I wasn't up to 'hosting' them in anyway.