i am going to die alone

[LittleBlondeNinja]

ok so,
im going to die alone.
I'm only 21 but im sure of it, im insecure, I have a ds who is 2, I get jealous easily, I try and control in a relationship, im just so messed up so if anyone has any advice on how I can stop myself being a twat in a relationship and try and make me see how I should be please help
I am also so so very depressed,
please any advice would be great

Go to your GP about the depression.

The rest is your self esteem and confidence which will take an age to come around, but will. Get your depression sorted first - until then, there's nothing you can do about anything as you are not in a good enough place or strong enough.

I think that the very best thing you can do is go to your GP and discuss how you're feeling. Spend some time concentrating on you and your well being will make you feel happier and healthier and in a much better place to be thinking about being in a relationship.

Have you got the support of family and/or friends around you?

My 20s were shit. Came into my own in 30s.

Yes speak to your GP about the depression. Do you have friends, family, a support network around you to talk to, spend time with or to look after DS for an hour or two whilst you have some 'me' time?

Also, make sure you get out each day with DS, whether it's a walk, toddler groups (plenty of free ones around if money is tight), anything. It really helps as otherwise you can feel a bit trapped indoors.

And the relationship stuff will come in time. With increasing age, maturity and experience you will handle relationships so much better. It's part of the ageing process! Please don't be so hard on yourself :-)

Just try and be nice, show basic respect and don't let yourself get too sucked in.

Date a few different men and just have fun and move on. Do NOT introduce them to your DS so that you can move on without complications. You need to build up your experience and confidence that you can behave well and be sure that you deserve to be treated well yourself.

I remember you saying you had just broken up with your boyfriend?

You will be all over the place and blaming yourself. It will pass I promise.

Yes, you should see your GP if you are feeling overwhelmed and need help. They are there to help you, but you need to pluck up the courage to ask.

The best advice I can give you is to have a break from relationships until you feel you have conquered your insecurities and feel happy and secure by yourself.

If you do this hard work for yourself and your DC you will then be able to see clearly, and be able to choose who comes into your life, not just accept anyone who shows interest, which is what we do when we have low self esteem.

Hey you are 21! Chin up you have youth and energy on your side. You can make your life what you want it to be. Don't let it pass you by. Go and get help from your GP!

I'm nearly thirty years older than you. Many times life has seemed meaningless and I have gone to bed thinking that the future is pointless.

When things are bad and you feel down, it is so hard to see past everything, but trust me, things do get better. I won't lie, things get better and then something else will no doubt bring you down, but that's life, the good and the bad,the rough and the smooth.

Whatever situation you are in, I promise you, it won't be like that forever. Something is always just around the corner.

You are twenty one. I am a completely different person with completely different tastes, likes and dislikes now.

Things do change, you will change. Life can be crap, but it can also be filled with joy and fulfilment. You are just setting out, you have a long journey ahead, don't look back but keep on going and explore and enjoy every twist and turn your journey in life takes you.

Jealousy usually stems from feeling insecure. Try a few self help books.

This one looks good

www.amazon.co.uk/Raise-Your-Self-Esteem/dp/B002SQCZFM/ref=tmm_aud_title_0

When you feel this low at night, please go to bed thinking that the horrible day you just had is over and tomorrow brings you different things.

Xxx

Thanks all :) made me feel much better
Im on a anti depressant citalopram have been for a while I have my low days and better days.....
chin up now
thanks all again for being nice xx

Pleased to hear you broke up with the useless boyfriend. I remember the other thread. Try to think about what YOU would like to be doung in 5 years and slowly work to that.