Wouldn't a good father...?

[catkin14]

Make time in his week for a regular meet up with his DC's, maybe same time each week so they all knew where they were?

Keep up contact other than a few words on skype?

Take all 3 DC's on holiday of a lifetime and not just 2 of them?

Not expect them to meet new partner (after 5 weeks of us splitting up) unless they want to without making them feel pressurised?

I seem to have got this parenting all wrong, by putting the feelings of my DCs above what I want or feel at this time of immense stress and change, cos he seems to just pick them up and put them down whenever he feels like it.
Is it me?
I dont know why I am surprised but I am.
Sorry, just needed to say this!

For each case, other than in exceptional circumstances, yes. But I guess you knew that...

May I ask how old the DC are, and whose decision it was to separate?

It is so not you. It is him.

You know he is a tosser, or you wouldn't have split up with him - you've done them one good thing by not having him live in the family home any more, now all you can do is keep providing that steady, stable, unconditional base and they will see for themselves which environment is preferable.

How are the DCs reacting?

DC's are early 20's and young teen.
I initiated split but he says I did right thing and got himself a new partner after 5 weeks of split.
At first he promised them everything, and its gradually tailed off.
He took 2 of them on holiday but not the other.
I realise they are older, but they are confused. Its all been about how he feels and how upset he was, not a word of how they feel.
At least they no longer feel sorry for him as he isnt 'lonely and upset' any longer.
New woman very lucky, she has no kids so he has undivided attention and one to one ego boosting!
bah humbug!