think I need to end it

[jenniferinblue]

Me and bf have both had the summer off. His holiday started before mine and he's been staying at my house since June we were getting on well before then.
Since he started to stay at my house we aregue all the time I say something and he argues with it just little things.
Recently he has started shouting at me in the street about minor things. He says it's my fault and that I start the argument but I've never been in a relationship where we argued all the time and I don't like being shouted at. And definitely not in public.
We've been together a year, I need to end it don't I?

you have been together a year and he is yelling at you in the street. Does it not say it all. I am sorry to know you are having a rough time.

This doesn't sound healthy or fun for either of you.

I'd end the relationship now rather than let it go on for another year or try moving in together or any of the things that make it harder to split up. Sorry.

Yup. Dump the cunt

Yes.

If someone shouts at you in the street, they don't stay in your house.

End it today. Tell him to go home.

Wherever you live in the UK, there are trains running for the next few hours. Tell him to get on one and go back to his own house.

Does he shout at other people in the street, OP, or just you?

I think the biggest indicator here is that things were going well before he moved in and the holiday period began - when you began to spend more time together.

This is who he actually is day to day. Not just on the nights out or the dinner dates.

It's easy to be wonderful for parts of the day, but it's near impossible to fake it for prolonged periods.

He is a good 'date' but not a good partner.
Good when he has sex, and can role off and go off somewhere, but lo and behold when he has to talk to you or share you afterwards he shouts. Basically be a good little sex doll - deflate and fit into his little box afterwards.

basically he's immature and this will deteriorate. my second ever "LTB"

Apologies if that sounded harsh. But I felt it had to be blunt. Something tells me you really want it to work. and if you don't stop now - you will both return to work- it will get better again and you may even contemplate marrying this.

then one day you have a DC and you will be home bound and guess what - this will rear it's head again.

You can't fix him or love him more to get the shouting to stop. please let him sort himself out - outside your home preferably.

Oh and get someone to be in the house when you kick him out. Your Dad or a male relation. You will need protecting- he has no boundaries. public shouting kinda says it all.

Good luck.

Shouts at you in the street?

Kick his arse out!

Sorry for the late reply, it's been a funny old day. In fact, I did end it and he did eventually take his stuff and go. Although he tried to protest/plead/argue/tell me how crap I am I stood my ground and eventually he went but not before saying that it is me who is abusive.

In fact, I didn't think any of you were being harsh, or unfair. Throughout the day, as things unfolded I kept looking at this thread and every time someone posted it strengthened my resolve. I did really know that being shouted at in the street is an LTB offence but when I first posted at 4.30am my head was completely mashed and I couldn't work it all out.
It took hours to convince him but in the end I think he knew that the game was up and he went.
Ofmice I think you hit the nail very much on the head, I didn't want that relationship to work but I would like it if one relationship of mine would work! So I think that's what you were picking up on.
Families no, it wasn't much bloody fun! And I would like a large order of fun, with a side dollop of giggling please.
No, Faire it was only me he shouted at.

But he's gone now and it's a relief.
Thank you everyone.

Thing is, if you are very lucky, one relationship in your whole life will 'work' and last. The rest will end.

Glad you got ríd OP, it was only going To get worse.

Well done.

Well done OP, sounds exhausting. I particularly liked his "you're crap" approach to keeping you(!).

Onwards and upwards Op.

Thing is, if you are very lucky, one relationship in your whole life will 'work' and last. The rest will end.

So true MrsTP

But if you don't end the bad ones, you won't be able to find that one that works.