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Make or break day!!

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peppajay · 23/08/2013 22:39

Having a days the off on Sunday going shopping with friends and hubby has the kids ALL day. Mixed feelings as is going to be make or break probably the latter but got to do it otherwise I will never know!!!

Kids are well excited daddy never does anything with them but he is certainly not excited.

I feel a bit mean leaving them with him but he is their dad and sometimes I deserve a day off although he totally disagrees. I didn't ask him this time just told him what was happening and he is not impressed. In a way I need to do this not just so I get a bit of time off but just to see really what kind of man he is and there is a small chance that he will enjoy it but more likely I will come home and find him a total nervous wreck with a bag packed ready to leave which I have decided is the best way forward if he can't cope with his own kids!!

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DameFanny · 23/08/2013 22:48

Oh good luck. Don't let him wriggle out before then though... And turn your phone off for the first hour after you leave the house...

CailinDana · 23/08/2013 22:50

Good on you. Have a great day.

purplewithred · 23/08/2013 22:50

Well done! Of course you deserve some time off - do hope it goes well!

peppajay · 23/08/2013 22:59

Apparently not entitled to time off:- why would I want it and why would any man look after his kids out of choice??????????? Granted- he does find the whole kid thing emotionally draining and since having them he is a totally different man from who I married and is permanently grumpy and stressed and really does not get any enjoyment from them at all. For his sanity he would far better on his own as it is wearing him down but I am fed up of not having a life when he SHOULD do his bit.

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Bogeyface · 23/08/2013 23:59

Well think about it this way, if he does bugger off you will get 1 weekend in 2 off Wink

Seriously though, stick to this. Start with one day a month and then up it to at least 2, he may not like it but tough shit, he is a father and he needs to realise that.

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