can anyone help or relate to this. without being too graphic, i have totally gone off sex. my dd is 8 months now. my partner is getting really annoyed with me and i feel like i am letting him down. i had a tear in my cervix and a torn clitoral hood after the birth so nothing was going near me! then i lost all my lovely pregnancy curves and hated my body. but the injuries have healed now (although those parts are more sensitive than they used to be) and i'm used to my skinny minny body again. so whats up with me? i love my partner, i fancy my partner but i just have no desire to have sex. lets just say i now have to be considerably stimulated before hand. i want to be able to just feel turned on again like i used to. it is starting to put a strain on our relationship. i feel like it is all my fault even though i don't want to feel like this and i am too embarassed to go to the doctor about it. is this normal or is there some other underlying problem that is causing this. i know everyone goes off it a bit but not for 8 months. i can probably count on both hands the number of times we have made love since the birth. pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease someone help.