DP and I are currently on a break due to a variety of issues that we have had. I fell pregnant quite quickly into our relationship we were living in 1 bedroom flat with the baby and his daughter around on the weekend things were pressured to say the least. I suffered from PND that he did encourage me to go to the doctors for although he never really pressed the issue. When my DS was 7 months I fell pregnant again and had an abortion over Christmas although using contraception I fell pregnant again when my DS was 1.
Our sex life deteriorated rapidly I went back to work after ML and was pushed out due to lack of training. Fast forward to now and we are in a 2 bedroom I am training for the career I have always wanted and the money situation has improved. Unfortunately this hasnt translated into our relationship we have been bickering and I still feel unsupported. I saw us breaking up if things didnt improve. We had an argument after visiting his family and I told him that I was really unhappy with the situation and his lack of gusto to do anything.
Since then he walked out and we are supposedly on a break although really we have split up. I know I havent been perfect but there has been so much on me the past 3 years. He didnt actually make the journey to the clinic with me on both occasions, has expected me to do the majority with our child as well as look after his daughter. He constantly made snide comments about me not liking anything sex, washing or ironing his clothes.
His whole family is upset with me as they think I changed over the past few years because I havent just had the energy to really talk especially when he and I are arguing. His mother and brother were the only others to know about the abortion and during that time due to an unrelated argument with him completely cut us out not even a message to see if I was ok she has never mentioned it. She constantly called me by my DPs exes name and if I said I was tired just told me to imagine how he feels.
Well now they have completely flipped the scfipt that they have always tried with me that they didnt want to come near him because of me and that I look down on them because they are cleaners. I have apologised for the times I have been outright rude but not speaking a lot but she wont even answer to speak to my son when he calls her.
My DP has admitted that he just wants to be babied but honestly I dont want to have to look after 3 kids. I was always there for his family when they were having problems it just feels so one sided. Im heartbroken and angry at the same time and dont know what to do.