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Breaking up is hard to do....

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giantpurplepeopleeater · 23/08/2013 10:40

I don't want to dwell on the back story as to how we came here, because I don't think that helps.

DP and I are in the process of splitting. I have a nearly 3 yr old DS, not 'D'P's. We have been living together for 10 months or so, after over a year of being together, but it's not working out. I moved about a 40 min drive from my parents, where I was previously living to be with him.

It's hard. I'm really upset and don't know what to do.

I feel truly heartbroken, ashamed that I made the decision and it hasn't worked out and that I have let DS down and let this affect him, ashamed that I will have to let people know, gutted that I love him, but that we can't make it work and he can't show me the affection I need, scared about what happens next, and what I will do.

I'm struggling financially and have some debts. I can't afford to move right now so am stuck renting with ExP (which I will call him from now on) until I finish off paying a loan in a couple of months.

But then where do I go?? I've started to make a life round here - DS is in a lovely nursery and I have started to make friends round here. But it's fairly far from parents and other family, although no friends where they live.

Do I stay round here, or do I go? Will I be really lonely? Won't it be very hard being away from my family? How will I afford it?

On the other hand, would it be really bad to move DS's nursery now? I could probably stay with my folks, and save some money.

I wish there was someone who could just hug me and tell me everything was going to be alright, and make the decisions for me. Anyone got any advice?

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mammadiggingdeep · 23/08/2013 10:50

Here's a virtual hug.
Only you can make these decisions but me personally.....I'd go back to where my family was. It is another move for ds but he's young and will prob be excited to see grandma every day again.

Can you discuss this with your mum? Don't make these decisions alone....chat to people who love you and let them help. Dont be embarrassed it didn't work either.....be proud you're putting it right :)
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