For the last few years I have had a group of friends who are all mummies. I thought, although we are all quite different, that we had something special. we had meets up's with and without the kids. It was always a supportive and happy group.obviously over the years we have become comfortable with those in the group we are more similar to and see them more on a one to one or in a smaller group more often.
A few weeks ago we had a get together for the summer in the park. It had been arranged well in advance. just before we left DD2 was sick. This is nothing unusual as reflux is involved. But in the car it happened again (still regular thing, all smiles and happy still) So after some deliberation to be on the safe side, we left DD2 at home with mil and took DD1 to the meet up.
Fast forward to when we get home and DD1 becomes ill and then throws up
. I immediately let all the other families know and apologised, told them we had no idea there was a bug and hope no one caught it. Over the next 48hours two set of siblings came down with mild versions of said bug. thankfully it was short lived. The resulting comments from these mums was quite hurtful, and angry that I had gone to the meet up at all. I suppose I should say other kids have been ill and its only become apparent after the meet ups over the years. Nothing has been said other than not yo worry it happens.
Sadly since then I seem to have been outcast by several members of the group. Pretending they don't get my messages when there is a group meet up, so im left out. Normal chatter through usual communications has pretty much stopped unless I instigate it. I understand the kids got sick and I apologised massively to them all, I felt awful and wouldn't have even considered going if I suspected illness. I have even gone ott on keeping kids away now if there is a possibility of anything starting to look like illness. which has resulted in lots of unnecessary time at home lately. I'm starting to feel like this one mistake has cost me my friendship with people I thought a lot of. It's really getting me down. I suppose what I would like to know is, have I done something so bad that anyone would react the way my friends have, and i deserve to be given the cold shoulder. Or have I misjudged how close we actually are?
bravely puts hat on waiting for a flaming