dp not coming home till 9pm because he been to see his mum

[LittleBlondeNinja]

hes not lying I know he goes to see his mum but 3 days a week he doesn't roll in till 9pm. My DS calls him daddy but doesn't see him 3 nights a week because he doesn't come bloody home.

I hardly see him, we are having a rough patch atm and I feel like he isn't coming home to try to make it right

He goes to see his mates sometimes too but my question is when the fuck am I allowed out after bedtime for ds? never, because im waiting for him to come in so I can see him or spending the evening in to spend time with him

He tells me if I have a problem with him coming home late 3 nights a week then WE have a problem

I am 21. my life should be rockin but its not!

Thanks all
I didn't imply I want dp to babysit my ds so I can go out on the piss, as a matter of fact I don't drink. I just mean nip to my best friends for a child free brew and home before 9pm.
My head was very much so up my arse at the time of meeting dp and ds calling him daddy was a big mistake. thanks for those who stuck up for me.... just feel very low at the moment.

I want to be something with my life id like to be a midwife but it seems inpossbile with lack of childcare/funds, im half qualified hairdresser and want to start my level 2 but I cant afford the course at night time and don't have enough money/funding for childcare for courses in the day.....

feeling very trapped.

look into things with a calm head. midwifery courses come with a bursary from the nhs and fees paid for and the bursary includes help with childcare and can be done part time.

the hairdressing - FE colleges usually have childcare faciities onsite and bursaries towards costs.

anything is doable even if not for a year or two.

Ive been to the college today and im not entilited to more than 15 hours free per week and there is no way I can afford the rest of the childcare :(

I need to realise dp isn't ds daddy and I cant expect him to act like it...

15hrs would fit a part time course. if your college is anything like one i know then there will be ways of doing it part time over a longer period. especially hairdressing as presumably you could take one module at a time.

hope you're managing to sort out what to do with boyfriend and having the 'conversations' that need having.

if you ever want a chat about education options, funding, coping with early years of single parenting or whatever do feel free to pm me. will help in any way i can.

Thank you so much
nothing has been sorted. he is still here but I don't think he wants to be.

I cant afford to do the part time course as it costs 915 and the funding isn't given anymore :(