NC in the unlikely event this outs me. Long time lurker and occasional poster here!
I need some advice on how to accept that things won't change and move on. The situation is that I have had 'misunderstandings' with a couple of family members. I won't go into details as I don't feel it's relevant, and also this post will last for AGES if I do! I have spoken to both of them about the issues, and they have given me their side of the story, I have apologised for anything I have done to offend them, but have not had an acknowledgment or apology for the upset caused to me. Both are notoriously self involved and have never been able to admit when they have done anything wrong, and I feel that the discussions that we have had will be all I'll get from them, and in their eyes the case is closed.
I have thought long and hard about whether I want to cut off contact but have decided that I want to give it one more try with both of them, as the thought of losing them completely, regardless of how flaky they are, really upsets me. I know that in order to maintain contact I need to be the bigger person and accept that I will not get an acknowledgment that they did anything wrong, much less an apology, but I am finding it really. I keep finding myself thinking about what happened so I need to stop. I don't want to keep bringing it up in the hope that something changes, and I know it's pointless to revisit it anyway.
Can anyone suggest to me how I can do this please? Apologies that this is so vague, I'll provide more detail if it's needed.
TIA.