Dh and I usually have a very strong relationship. I am a sahm and he works full time in a retail type job. We have dd aged 10 (from my previous relationship) and ds 14 months.
Dh suffers with acute anxiety for which he takes daily medication, as do I. I also have thyroid problems and a pituitary problem which often leave me feeling exhausted (I am on medication for these too).
The last few weeks dh has been getting slowly more and more stressed with work, various issues and I have tried to be supportive, listening and offering advice. I can feel he is slipping back into depression and deep anxiety. He revealed he hadn't been taking his pills as he'd run out. So to try and help him I organised a new prescription via the gp for him. However he is extremely snappy with me and I feel like whatever I say to him it just isn't what he wants me to say re work. I feel he thinks I don't understand when in many ways I do - until 2 years ago I used to have quite a senior role in sales and marketing.
I am now at the point where I feel like I don't want to say anything about his work as he is just so negative and snappy back. I am helping him look for other work (I am good at doing his cv etc). I am sympathetic but I just can't seem to say or do the right thing.
Along with this he seems to have cut off emotionally from us at home really. He isn't interacting with the dc as much as usual and is leaving much of it to me. This is out of character for him. He is usually very hands on.
This last week I haven't been feeling well and I have hurt my foot quite badly and finding it hard to get about. He is still leaving most things to me and will randomly announce on a day off he is going for a walk to Tesco or whatever, not offering to take ds with him so it ends up being me looking after the dc again.
Last night he got in from work and said he was going out with his friend from work for the day on Monday. I don't know why this has really annoyed me. We never used to really go out on our own with friends and he's doing it more now. This should be ok as its infrequent but I think coupled with his general mood at home I feel annoyed. He doesn't drink at all by the way so it's not a drinking thing. He will just be looking round the shops.
We don't have any family support from either side. Neither of us speak to our families much. Long story.
I'm feeling really angry with dh now and yet sad at the same time as I really don't know how to help him. I feel unsupported at home.
This will pass won't it? :( am I being horrible? Maybe I should just be picking up the crap and smiling and carrying on. That's what I'm doing at the moment.