Feel so lost dont know what to do.

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Dh has higher sex drive than me if he doesnt get it when he wants he barely talks to me for days, On saturday he wanted sex but I had to get up and get dd ready for swimming and ds dressed and all fed so I said this to him.
We were going shopping for school uniforms after so he was coming to watch dd swim he never seen her swim before,In car on way to shops he told her her swimming wasnt great and gave out to her for lack of concentration.So i gave out to him I said she was grand and that you need to keep her confidence up anyway he has barely spoken all week except on monday to ask for 'a ride' as dd was at friends house and ds having a nap so free house which is a rare occurrance so I says are u for real!
So it all blew up yesterday he went to the local shop and I asked who was was working there he was like the one i would give one to

Then I said im going for my walk (i walk every evening when he gets in) and heat up your dinner so he start gettin thick with me over that

Last night he had shower got dressed and was like Im going for a spin dont wait up so i was like fine (I usually beg him not to go) anyway he didnt go still there when i had my shower so i said thought you were gone he says i might as well be miserable here.

so last night we rowed he said it was cos i didnt give him sex when he wanted and he shoudnt have to beg for it (before that he was blaming his mood on me givin out to him over dd swimming) so hes saying u never enjoy sex or innitiate it I told him I feel i have to give it to him to keep him happy and we wont have to go through this shit cos I refused him.
In fairness he would be well serviced twice a week usually but now I just dont know how i feel about him any more between him and minding the kids I am worn out He said last night why did you marry me I just said Im wonderin about that now so he is still in a strop I feel were getting nowhere I told him he needs to apologise for his carry on but he says and u have nothin to be sorry for So i said im sorry for not givin u a ride when you wanted one!
Thanks for reading.

He sounds like a selfish,entitled wanker - none of these traits are usually considered a turn on to most reasonable women.

^So it all blew up yesterday he went to the local shop and I asked who was was working there he was like the one i would give one to
hmm^

^Nice, really nice.

Does he have any redeeming features?

When we got together first it was all good Hes probably stressed from being main earner now and im stressed from having kidsall the time I cant remember the last time he told me he loved me or just held my hand or had a cuddle (non sexual) I feel i dont care anymore like im just done iykwim!

He would usually be well serviced twice a week

No advice really.

I am sympathetic however, he does sound like a child.

You so got a like self-entitled dude their mate - I say getting down with the written street talk.
So much that his behaviour is unlikely to ever change, your choice is to put out and put up, or get a life and LTB.

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

He wanted a "ride", you are not a bloody horse!!.

Why are you together at all?. Plenty of people work long hours and are stressed but that is no excuse or justification to carry on as he is doing towards you. You're teaching your children that on some level all your H's crappy behaviour is acceptable to you. Your son could grow up to be just like him behaviour wise and your DD could grow up to end up unconfident and with someone as critical as her Dad. I feel his behaviour towards her after swimming was particularly bad.

I didn't need to read further than your first sentence to realise what kind of man he is if he doesnt get it when he wants he barely talks to me for days

You should not allow him to treat you like this. If you don't want to have sex you don't have to. If he asks you why you don't want to tell him that he is behaving like a baby and that is not attractive to you.

Sounds to me like youre not happy. I'd dump his ass and find someone who appreciates you for what you are and not what you can do for him

Also, I would not let him get away with taking it out on your children by telling them they're not great at something. Shame on him!

"Well serviced twice a week"

I am afraid I would be most unhappy at sex with my partner being described as such. You make him sound like the dish washer!

On the other hand I cannot STAND men who get petulant over sex, it's a complete turn off. I am not surprised you've had to reduce it a task that needs doing!

I think if you consider that you service him that maybe the sex you are having is not exactly great. Men are not good communicators and sometimes depend on sex for closeness and to feel loved. Maybe he doesn't feel loved by you. Maybe your child wasn't concentrating in the pool. My son used to act the clown and not listen to the swimming teacher and I told him to concentrate.

Can you try getting out for a drink or a walk whatever and just talk to him properly. It can be impossible to communicate when things are fraught especially with young children. If you love him, tell him that you do. Try to be nice to each other and treat the sex you have as more than just a service.

I don't see why the OP should do the above whitesugar when he responds like this: "if he doesnt get it when he wants he barely talks to me for days". I wouldn't want to have sex at all in that situation.

There are two sides to every story.