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Is this normal?

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Neeliethere · 19/08/2013 18:52

I moved out of the marital home 4 months ago now. I was OK ish at first. Sad but was so sure it was the right thing to do after 20 years of crap for both of us, but mainly for our daughter. She is happier now. We share the time with her. about 50/50 I would say. I live marginally closer to the school than the marital home. As time goes on I seem to be getting sadder and sadder. Over the last two weeks I have basically cried for a while just about every day. Today has been really bad. I've had to lock myself in the loo at work three times. Tonight I see some photos my daughter has posted on FB of stuff she's been doing today on the river with the Kayak I bought her last week. My heart feels like its snapping in half. I can't stop sobbing. I only saw her yesterday evening, albeit for a short period.

Bloody hell when does it start to get easier?

Sorry needed to moan.

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comingintomyown · 19/08/2013 19:02

Just because its really hard doesnt mean it isnt the right thing to do.

After 20 years I hate to tell you this but you have a while yet ahead of feeling like this

It will get better and believe it or not you will be happy but for now its the rollercoaster of recovery I'm afraid.

IME stuff to do with children takes far longer to get used to than anything else

Moan away I wish I had had MN in my early months

Neeliethere · 19/08/2013 19:29

thank you. I felt happier to start with but seem to be going backwards. Sure its just a blip I hope.

Have to try and keep myself healthy and fit I guess.

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goodenuffmum · 19/08/2013 20:41

Neeliethere
I'm feeling the same as you and even posted today about being upset because he told me he is moving out of his mums into a flat after 6 months separated. I thought I was doing well but am now dreading when my DC start overnights.

Don't you wish you could just fast forward through the crap part?

Neeliethere · 15/09/2013 17:24

Took a turn for the worst this week and today he is entertaining a new woman he met four weeks ago in the house with my daughter and her friend.

I am feeling shit I don't mind saying.

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