Confused re ex DP

[gingerpig]

Hiya. Just looking for a bit of perspective here please..!

What would you think if you met up with your ex DP (split up about 8 months ago due to lack of progression in relationship) to find he has your valentines cards up on the mantlepiece and a big painting of the two of you on the wall? (He moved into this place post breakup and we havent seen each other for a few months).

Also seems keen to be 'friends' and do stuff together, is very huggy/holding hands/affectionate, but as soon as you raise the possibility of getting back together, goes into overdrive with anxiety and disaster thoughts of it all going wrong again and backs off.

I feel a bit confused by his actions versus his words.

He can put up as many cards & pics of you as he likes, but if he's too anxious to be in a relationship, there's not much you can do.

(I'd find the painting/cards thing a bit weird tbh)

Yeah, you're right. And I did find it strange. I was shocked when I realised, but stupidly allowed myself to think maybe it meant he was open to trying again, especially with all the emotion/affectionate stuff and wanting to spend time together.

I just do not get him at all.

Honestly? I would think he's a couple of sandwiches short of a picnic and run for the hills!

the painting was done when we were together - it's not like he got one especially commissioned afterwards!!!

He sounds as though he still likes the idea of a relationship with you, but is there any reason to suppose he'd be better at actually doing it?

No there isnt. There is still a big emotional connection which I took to mean there could be more between us, but it doesnt seem to lead into any sort of action on his part. and me bringing it up makes him very edgy.

I expect now I've raised it he will disappear again.