Our sex life used to be great but now it's shit. I have to initiate it 99.9% of the time and around 50% of that time I get rejected.
DP is never in the mood.
He'll get on with it and do it for my sake but it's only because I want to. There is no passion, he never comes onto me, he never shows that he wants me. Even on the very rare occasion that he does initiate it's cold - hand down there, press the right button - kind of thing. He doesn't stroke, caress or passionately kiss me to show me that he wants me.
He does watch porn though. When I first found out we had words and he promised he'd stop. I've recently found it not successfully deleted from the history however.
So he has no passion for sex with me but gets quite turned on by "married girl gets banged on kitchen work top" and "naughty estate agent caught on camera."
So - whilst porn use isn't the worst thing a bloke could do, it's a bit shitty to be into that and not real sex with your girlfriend isn't it?
See another thing is he's so boring in bed. Missionary is his favourite position which, whilst there is nothing wrong with that he never wants to try anything else. Foreplay is always the same 'hand down there' scenario - in the years we've been together he's "been down on me" twice and the second time was only because I asked him to. He doesn't seem to mind receiving oral off me though.
He asked me my favourite position once, I said 'doggy'. He said "ah right! I'll have to remember that!" - we've not done it since.
Funny though how he quite likes to watch "woman bent over tool bench getting fucked" and "bored housewife likes it doggystyle" etc.
What am I just a fat ugly freak that he has no desire for then? cos that's what it feels like.