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Who's version is more realistic, his or mine?

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Byebipolarbear · 18/08/2013 20:10

Quick history - a few months ago I found that dp had been using dating/porn sites. I confronted him and he lied, denied, lied and denied again before finally admitting it and pleading for forgiveness. We were so rocky I felt sea sick at this point but we dragged our way through it and stayed together.

Fast forward to last week. I was looking for something of mine in his hotmail account (I sometimes use it as its easy to access from iPad) and in the deleted messages was an email from gmail welcoming him to his new gmail email address. Suspicious as he'd not mentioned signing up to a new email address, he'd tried to delete the welcome email AND its the same bloody email provider he was using back when the dating sites etc were on the go. I logged into it (same password for everything) and it seemed he hadn't logged into it since the day he opened it. No inbox messages if sent messages. I asked him about it and he said it was an email account he sent up to register his new android tablet as it needed a google address. I said "but you already had a gmail account" and he said "yes but I couldn't remember the log in details for it"

Errr clearly bullshit as they're practically the same ad the new one!! Eg if his old username was blueboat his new username is blueboat87!! And the passwords are exactly the same!!!

My assumed version is that I was at work that night, he'd had a few to drink and got tempted with the dating/porn sites again. Set up this email address for it and then sobered up and changed his mind. I was actually working nights that night so it fits.

Paranoid?

Who's version would you believe, his or mine?

OP posts:
Reality · 18/08/2013 20:12

You can't live like this.

You will go mad.

You don't trust him (and with good reason) and he isn't the man for you.

Why put yourself through this?

MrsMcEnroe · 18/08/2013 20:16

I agree with Reality

elvislives2012 · 18/08/2013 20:18

I agree with reality Hmm
There's no trust, regardless what anyone else says. Sorry

AnythingNotEverything · 18/08/2013 20:20

I agree - it almost doesn't matter why he's set up a new gmail account. The relationship is still suffering from the effects of past events. You need to both address those or you'll lose the plot quickly.

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