I work in a very male dominated industry, am the only woman in my area at work etc.
I've always had more masculine interests - football, motorsports, cars, comedy, drink ales / whiskies, watch most sports etc. However I am not a tomboy - I like to look feminine, wear make up, paint nails, do hair nice etc (none of this in work as I spend my days covered in dirt, head in engines etc!)
I share my office space with 1 other guy, but neither of us are in there all the time. When we are, we chat a lot about work and stuff out of work - he's told me one of his deepest secrets that only a handful of people know about. We generally have a giggle, plenty of banter etc. He bigs me up to other colleagues, clients and suppliers. He's late 40's and I'm late 20's. He isn't my boss, but is in a higher graded role, and we work together on various projects etc.
A little while back we were chatting - there's a guy in another department who has made it very clear he likes me, and we were talking about that - and he said I'm very intruiging (sp?) in that I'm very relaxed around men (well people in general!), have a wicked sense of humour, always game for a laugh and am very different to most mens' wives - certainly of those we work with. We text occasionally out of work, or if one of us is in but the other off, the one who is off will sometimes text a picture of a pint in a "jealous?!" sort of way.
He is very supportive of me in terms of career, and we do talk about personal things too and give each other advice etc. We socialise in groups out of work occasionally, and he's much the same out of work but more flirty.
I'm finding myself being attracted to him, although I don't want a relationship. I have a partner, although we have an open relationship - my colleague knows this. He also knows I'm bisexual and we've spoken about women we like a little. I'm very private at work and don't like everybody knowing my business, unless I consider them as friends, and then what we talk about stays within our little group, but even then there are things that I don't divulge, and they have no idea about.
I'm now finding myself wondering if he's attracted to me, but have no idea how I'd know. It isn't like I could ask him out as I don't want that. And I couldn't ask him if he's interested in sex as that would be weird??!!!!