I am so unhappy. I feel like I have failed my mother and children because I don't think I can stay in this marriage. My husband gives me no support on any level. We don't have fun together, the last time we had the opportunity to go for a drink he reaction was rude and hurtful, it was also in front of my mum who had offered to babysit so I was embarrassed too. I feel completely drained because I am so consumed by trying to work out how I feel. My husband isn't mean, but just doesn't give support or take any responsibility and because of this I now don't find him mentally attractive at all. I am at the point where I am finding I cant be bothered to discuss any future plans with him as his response is always the same - he agrees but gives no consideration to the subject thus no opinion of his own. I ask and have asked for a long time but I know I cant change him.
DC's are 5, 4 and 2 at the moment, as I do manage most things myself Im not too phased at living alone with them but I just dont know how to come to the best conclusion for everyone .... to stay or to go? co incidentally I have told DH that I am thinking of leaving, a few weeks later I asked him if he had given it any thought and he said that 'he thinks he should move out because that is what I want' arrhhhh am I daft to want him to think for himself and tell me what he thinks?
I am seeing a Councillor - she said ask my heart - the answer is there - I still cant work it out.
We are in separate bedrooms and every night when I get to be on my own, I cry and cry.
How has anyone else finally made the decision to stay in a marriage or to leave? For me it has become all consuming and I find myself struggling to concentrate on other day to day tasks like playing with my beautiful children or working. I just want to make a decision and move forward.