Feeling un wanted and insecure

[katieAashley]

I'm six and and half months pregnant and Bd has told me in the last few days that he no- longer wants to have sex with me, he says its because the baby is to big now we have been having sex less and less in the last 2 months, sometimes I think he's happy the bump had gotten bigger now he had an excuse not to be with me, I know I must be difficult for men with baby thing but it makes me feel so insecure so unloved so rejected I know I've put on weight and this to me cements the fact that how you look influences how much he loves me. We have only been together a short time before I got pregnant so this makes me worry about our future and if he still loves me. I have suffered from an eating disorder and body diss morphia so I know this I going to be one of the things that will make me upset. I keep telling my self I'm just having a bad day but its been going on for at lest a week now. Is this normal do lots of men just find it too difficult to have sex with the mother once her pregnancy is quite far a long, is it just them? and not that something is wrong with me. Feeling low

Some men love the body of a pregnant woman, some are terrified of hurting the baby. Think they'll poke them in the eye or something. It's not you, it's him. He's a man and they're all a bit weird...

I'm 29wks and my DH isn't that keen for sex now - he just finds it too weird now that the baby is really big and wriggling about. Tht's fine by me though because I'm too knackered for all that anyway!

What about other forms of intimacy though? Sex isn't the only indicator of affection. Do you make time for cuddling, kissing, stroking/massaging each other? Other sexual acts? Maybe make some time for some of that stuff instead and see how it goes. You may find that sex happens anyway once you're in the mood!

at 6.5 months it's understandable imo, for a man it's literally like having sex right next to a baby which now really shows, and pushing the baby around - if I were a man I wouldn't!
Does it have to be sex? If he's affectionate and does kissing/hugging/words of support, surely that's fine for a couple of months? if he doesn't talk to him, as that's NOT normal from a partner.

then talk to him

x-posts, squitten!

I totally understand what your saying and yes I'm sure that it is kinda strange for men once the baby gets bigger I, I think because I have put on weight that I'm obsessing that its just that, that has influenced him why he doesn't want to have sex, yer other forms of being intimate sound like a good Idea but at the moment we haven't been, I think because he's is worried it will lead to me wanting sex and then maybe un argument/ hurt feelings. It also doesn't help that we are sleeping in separate beds, in the same room but he's on a mattresses on the floor because he says its to uncomfortable sleeping in the same bed I'm to hot and move around to much having to sleep on my side now not my back and he has a physical job so I know he needs he's sleep but it dose make me feel more distant. Do lots of other couples sleep in separate beds in the third trimester ??