Embarrasing sex question

[Thunderrock]

Since the birth of my dc five months ago myself and Dh have not had sex until last night. Until then it hurt too much when we tried (which wasn't often...). It still hurt last night but was just about bearable. But DH could not climax. He said he didn't feel like he was inside me. Does anyone have any idea what is going on? I had an unplanned c-section, but thought that at least I would be free from problems 'down there' because of this. I also breast feed. And haven't really done my pelvic floor exercises. No idea if these bits of information are relevant. Anyone else experienced this?

Maybe his willy's shrunk :)

I didn't mean to offend when I asked if he'd been a wanker!

It's just if he has and used a tight grip (not the same as sex with a partner, some men will grip tight to climax quicker) then he may need to readjust to vaginal sex. Just might be another avenue worth looking at.

Have to admit I thought the same as Binary in that maybe he is suffering with the 'death grip' that comes from lots of wanking.

sorry didn't have time to read whole thread but I want to reassure you, i found having sex was very sore after my section and lube made it worse, felt like it was burning/ stinging me, I think its related to breastfeeding cos once I'd stopped breastfeeding I went back to normal

Thanks yoni, that is reassuring! Missbo, I kinda wish it would shrink. He is, ahem cringes, unusually well endowed! No offence taken binary!

Look- this is really common. Women often need some help 'down there' at different stages of our lives. Post-birth is one of them and menopause is another. it's down to lack of oestrogen because BF limits the production ( no periods etc). Pop to the dr, ask for Ovestin cream of Vagifem ( bit stronger) and you'll be sorted. Forget OTC lubes- won't really work.

Thanks bopeep!

Nice bit of not-so-subtle self-promotion there and you seem to be thanking yourself for the mention. Back to the drawing board for you I think.