Hello everyone, I posted here a couple of weeks ago about feeling that I wanted to move out of this house and away from this Town. Since then I have thought of nothing else and am starting to feel more and more stuck in a rut, and I want to just sit and cry at the moment.
My DH hasn't said much at all, as I have basically changed our future plans, when we were always planning on making changes to this house by adding extensions, and changing the gardens etc.
He has basically said its up to me and hasn't shown any enthusiasm for a new and fresh start, even though I have said I cannot make this descision by myself as its too big and important. I said to him last night that he doesn't seem that keen, but he said that he is trying to get used to the idea of a move as it was something we had never planned to do, then he just dropped the topic, I just responded by saying that I think we should at least keep our options open.
Unfortunately, if we did put this house on the market, it would involve a lot of very hard work. All three of us are hoarders and a lot has been accumulated over the 20 years, a loft full even came with us when we first made the move here! Sometimes I go from room to room and think oh god where do I start, where can I hide away some of this stuff, and I feel totally overwhelmed! Its a very sobering thought that we would have to sort the place in order for an Estate agent to take photos, and then also have possible viewers, god help me!!!
On days like today though, I just feel like running away, or dropping the lot into a huge skip, but then I would regret not keeping certain things!
My son doesn't help at all, his room is constantly a tip, and he will even drop any little bits of rubbish in the front garden on his way in, wears his work boots up the stairs and basically cannot seem to change this attitude, no matter how many rows we have over it.
My DH seems to think that to do all the extension work here, garden plans, redecoration, etc, will only cost around 25/30k tops, but I said it could well tot up to more than that, and depending upon how much we get for this house, it could well be cheaper to move to instead.
Plus at the end of the day, the new changes will not make a difference to the upstairs layout, or give us a bigger bedroom space, something I have always wanted. It will not add any real value to the property either if we were then to sell it on later.
There is a Town not too far away from here, which we have always said is lovely, and has pretty much everything we need. If we managed to sell up here then we would need to make up the amount by around 30k, as house prices there are slightly more.
The idea feels huge and very scarey, and I am trying to find positives to staying here, but its a struggle to be honest, especially if you see what I have written my previous post.
Please advise me, I just don't know what to do next. :-(