How to get the spark back

[janji]

Dh and I have been together 19 years and have 2 dc. Both very much still in love with each other but the relationship has become more like a close brother and sister.

I know all relationships hit a lull, but ours seems to have been that way for years now.

I have suffered depression / exhaustion (nothing to do with relationship) and dh has been supportive throughout. However, we rarely spend any to e together and due to my insomnia no longer even share a bed. I feel so isolated and have discussed this with him but nothing is ever changed /resolved.

We have no extended family or opportunities to go out without the dc together.

Our ds also has SEN which at times has out tremendous strain on the family as a whole.

Any mumsnetters have any advice or been through similar and come out the other side?

how old are your children and what have you done so far for your insomnia (apart from come on mumsnet at 2am?)

Dc are 5 and 7. Tried all sorts of relaxation techniques, cbt and when really desperate, sleeping medication which never seems to work. Unable to switch off re causes of my previous depression despite it now being mostly sorted and mostly in the past.