I'm so insecure & frightened to lose him

[sparrowlegs11]

My partner and I have the most wonderful relationship and I am so happy. He is kind, loving and generous and we have always got on like a house on fire.

However I am just so insecure about myself. I hate the way I look, I hate my personality (I am anxious and a worrier, whereas he is very chilled). I just worry that one day he will see me how I see myself and leave me.
I have had one or two horrible relationships in the past, where the partner in question basically ended it, but didn't have the decency to even TELL me, let alone explain why.

How can I get over these negative feelings about myself, and the constant insecurity and worrying? I do not confide in him because I worry he would be pushed away by it.

Maybe you've got to address the root cause of why you feel this way, when it sounds like he's not doing anything to make you feel insecure.

Counselling perhaps?

Would counselling help?

If it's any consolation, opposites really do attract.

He may well find your neuroses as endearing as you find his mellowness.

...or put another way, what you see as anxiousness etc he might see as passion or similar.

Sounds like you might have a low opinion of yourself and maybe other people see qualities in you where you see flaws?

I feel exact same at the moment it's awful isnt it, I'm usually bubbly care free but at this moment I feel like my husband will leave me I went to the docs today, maybe go and see your doc and they can advise whats best x

I would strongly suggest seeing your GP about the possibility of counselling - CBT especially would probably be very beneficial as it helps you to recognise negative thought patterns and change them.

Weelady, did the GP offer any helpful advice?
I am just feeling down about myself right now, because I am in the midst of a big rosacea flare up...so I feel totally hideous. And strangely whenever this happens I start to really panic about every aspect of my life.

I can't really confide in my partner because I don't want our relationship to be all about me leaning on him. I don't want him to question why he's bothering with this neurotic, anxious woman with crappy skin when there are loads of sane, prettier ones out there. Partner is away for the next week or so with work too, so I'm feeling pretty isolated. I try to talk to my mother about my problems, but I feel like she only wants to know me when things are going well for me. She doesn't seem to want to hear it if there is something upsetting me.

Thanks for your advice everyone

Yeah sparrowlegs they were really nice, I've to go for blood tests for thyroid and menapause! Not a quick fix but balls rolling she did say even if it isn't any of these she will help me,

I've had all these thoughts running through my head and I spoke to my best friend yesterday who used to be jealous in a previous relationship and I asked her how she overcame it she said if something's going to happen it will so last night and today everytime a thought pops in my head I think "f@ck it" and it's helped a bit!