Please help (defo not a troll)

[Weelady77]

Hey guys was wondering if someone could help me?

I've been with my husband 18 years married 8 next month, have 3 kids 17,14,8

I've always been on facebook but my husband joined about 12-13 weeks ago! He's found all school friends and he was chatting to a old female friend on his wall, well I got so jealous and had a huge argument, I realise I was being stupid was me just being an arse! But since then I started basically stalking him (I know his password)
One night I went on his fb and seen he had added an ex gf (at least 19 years ago) so I unfriended it right away and the following day had another huge row! I felt hurt angry sad jealous then guilt! Since then it's played on my mind constantly I'm a wreck and its not like me at all I'm so laid back and never been jealous before, my husband is so apologetic but then I feel guilty as really I think it's wrong to add exes that's my opinion but he should be able to do what he wants,

I made an appointment for the docs today and they are going to check my thyroid and for menapause as my mum went through it early! I'm hoping its something and I'm not a raving lunatic!

Please be gentle I'm quite teary today

I would leave the FB for now and go see the GP and get tested for menopause/thyroid. I suffer dreadful anxiety about lots of stupid things. Dh and dd climbed to the top of a lighthouse the other week. I sat in cafe and fretted about her falling to her death the whole time.

Def sounds like a visit to gp would be worthwhile, book a double appt and go through everything. Write a list so you don't forget once you are there (I do this!).

Be kind to yourself, you have recognised you have a problem which could be medical/hormonal or might be due to jealousy/anxiety issues but this is still a medical problem. Just because there isn't a blood test for it doesn't make it less important.

Yeah we've came off it, I do miss it and he's told me to go back on but feel to guilty! (See what I mean about going round in circles)

I get the blood tests done end of month, I'm hoping it is one or another and it can be treated

portofino: DistanceCall, why would Op being jealous mean her Dh will consider other women? hmm I totally agree it is not normal behaviour, but implying that her having an issue with it will lead him to an affair is leaping a bit.

Well, if my partner was sneaking into my FB profile and deleting my friends without my knowledge and would be extremely freaked out about him being a controller and start seeing other men as much more attractive by comparison.

When someone has a stranglehold on you, the natural impulse is to flee.

He's really quite understanding as he used to be extremely jealous for about the first 3-4 years we were together, and I know for a fact he would be raging if I had added an ex!

The thing that's bothering me is I'm not like this and I can see everyone's and his points but I can't grasp it nothing makes sense iykwim!