infidelity and divorce

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I've known for a few months that DH uses prostitutes and sexts OWs when he travels abroad for work. I have proof of texts and emails to escort websites, escorts and other women which I took screen shots of and saved on my phone and as attachments in my email.

I am devastated, but this is not the point of my post. We have two DCs.

I believe that DH loves me, but as a mother rather than a lover. He is ultimately selfish and loves his money the most (more than the DCs), so when I start divorce proceedings I know that he will fight to keep every penny.

He owns a house in central London and 7 other properties all over the world. All but the one we live in (London) are rented out, and he has about £50K in rental income before tax a month in various accounts on top of his salary which is also substantial.

We have a joint account which both of our salaries go into. I am not on the title deeds for any of the properties and I do not and have not contributed to any of the mortgages. We do not have a pre-nuptial agreement.

I have been dedicated over the past ten years to bringing up my children and not thought once about money or the prospect of divorce, but the humiliation of seeing the cheating and the way he talks about me have made me angry.

Three questions:

If he spends 6 months travelling away from the DCs every year anyway, does this affect his custody?

What, realistically do you think I can get from a divorce based on the above?

Do I need to get any more details in place before I proceed?

Hi, sorry to hear what you're going through.

For now I would gather all the information that you can, bank statements, property valuations, pension details etc and make copies and store them somewhere safe, with a trusted friend or family member.

Speak to a solicitor, some give free half hour sessions to begin with. Find one that you click with and that you believe will fight for you.

There is some excellent legal advice to be had on the Legal section of MN, try posting there as they'll be able to give you a better idea of your rights.

Good luck for the future.

Not a family lawyer but have some knowledge (I am a solicitor). I'm afraid as there are international finances your average high street solicitor is not going to cut it, you need someone with good working knowledge of (or ability to quickly and efficiently take advice on) the various jurisdictions in which your husband holds these properties, as the laws of those countries may make a significant difference (as opposed to what the position would be if he owned 7 but to lets in the UK).

Good luck to you and I'm sorry your h is such a sleaze, in the long run you sound well rid.

I would second re posting in legal