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Do I text or not?

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DrinkFeckArseGirls · 12/08/2013 21:17

Been on 3 dates with a guy who I've known for a couple of years previously. He had to cancel our 4th date due to dying member of family. A close member but not a parent. He was keen to re-arrange for as soon as poss, hopefully this week. I said I could do ladt Sunday (convo on Friday) but I assumed he might still be busy with family affairs. He said he'd call Sat late eve to let me know how the family meeting went and to see if he was a available on Sunday.

I haven't heard from him since i'm guessing the family member has passed away. Do I text or not? Sth like 'how are things?' or 'you ok?'. Don't want to be intrusive and if he wanted, he would've got in contact...

Might see him this mid week at a work related activity but we don't work together as such.

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Daddoinghisbest · 12/08/2013 23:07

If that's me on my high horse then sorry about that. I'm off it now and tucking in. Night night. Smile

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 12/08/2013 23:08

But I obviously appreciate all the answers Grin.

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MadameBlavatsky · 12/08/2013 23:12

Hmmmm call me paranoid but I would be on super alert for further game playing with this one. 'A relative dying' or some other major catastrophe as a cause of cancelling can be indicative of a player in my experience. Hmm

Seriously, trust your instincts. If you think he's bullshitting you he probably is.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 12/08/2013 23:13

No Dad, not you Smile

I'm seeing him tomorrow soon so he can help me with something around the flat Wink

I'll be very understanding Thanks

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llittleyello · 12/08/2013 23:16

Yes I was given the dying relative line once. Trust your instincts.

HaroldLloyd · 12/08/2013 23:18

It would be a stupid lie as your bound to meet his family one day if you carry on dating and the truth would come out, anyone that uses that to rearrange a date is clearly a NO1 sicko and needs punching and dumping.

kittymchotpress · 12/08/2013 23:18

either way, just leave it for now and see if he gets in touch. then you'll know.

Daddoinghisbest · 13/08/2013 22:21

Hey drink, so have you seen him? Don't keep us in suspense.... How'd it go? Smile

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 13/08/2013 23:08

Yes, I saw him today Wink. All seems kosherSmile.

He seems genuinely keen to see me whenever possible. I am suspicious by nature as I don't want to be taken advantage of but I think he's a top bloke. Not that I told him that of course.

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