What do I do?

[Icantseeit]

Had to name change for this ...

This morning I wasn't even out of bed before my OH started shouting up 'where's my sandwich?' and 'I can't find my drinks bottle' I got up and came downstairs to put the washing on and I said that as we got back late I didn't have time to get more bread (he can go to a local place and buy one at lunchtime!!)

Anyway he had a go over other things and then when I turned round so my back was facing him, he kicked my in my bum (he had his shoes on). It didn't particularly hurt but that's not the issue.

I would like advice please ... I have no-one to ask or discuss this with :(

Who the hell does he think he is?

My advice is that you need to make it very, very clear to him that this is unacceptable behaviour and you must demand an apology. I assume he's gone to work now so you will need to do it later.

If it helps, write down what you want to say, so that you have it straight in your mind. Then as soon as he returns say you need to speak to him NOW, and tell him how you feel.

You might also consider texting him now, along the lines of "I was so shocked when you kicked me this morning that I couldn't respond or speak about it. When you get back later we need to sit down and talk about this and I expect you to apologise."

I think this will make you feel more in control. Do NOT let this go unchallenged.

Get the domestic abuser out of your house, or leave

There are no other options

he kicked you because you didn't make him a fucking sandwich?

Leave his bags by the front door when he returns home, people don't treat their dogs like that.

I'm sorry but an apology just wouldn't cut it for me.

Do you have children? Would you want them to behave like that towards another human being?

The only way to make it clear that this is unacceptable behaviour is to action it, by getting this vile abuser out of your house.

I wouldn't even want an apology, if someone is kicking you for not making a sandwich, I doubt they would do anything other than pay a bit of lip service, leaving you to worry about when this is going to happen again.

Dear goodness. And I have a suspicion from the way you've written your OP that this isn't the first time he's been aggressive?

That would be it for me. It. Do you have DCs?

Is this normal behaviour from him? He sounds like a vile pig.

If so, I have only one piece of advice and that would be to get far away from him. You don't have to live like that.

I'm with turnip on this. The level of contempt in kicking, as well as the fact he waited until you turned your back which made you vulnerable and defenceless, is disgusting. He isn't respecting you. I would not have him back in the house tonight. He assaulted you, and how much it did or didn't hurt is not the point.

Are you ok OP?

oh seriously, you say he kicked you, it didn't particularly hurt and emphasize he had shoes on to make him a nasty evil person. I don't condone violence but this seems more like a brother and sister squabble rather than a wife beater. maybe if you stop doing him sandwiches then it's his responsibility not yours, no arguements

If he was angry when he kicked you then I would be concerned. If it was done in jest, like a "play fight" scenario then I would laugh it off. It sounds as though it was the former.
If my dh kicked me during a row, I would be distraught. You need to take action to make sure he doesn't do that again - whether that's making him see how unacceptable it is, or whether it's leaving him is up to you. But don't put up with it.

He obviously has NO respect for you. I could not live with that.

That is not acceptable at all. Are you ok OP?

Oh god op, that's not right.
It doesn't make any difference at all if it hurt or not, it is aggressive and bullying.
Is this the first time he's behaved like this?