Counselling...what happens and does it help?

[wakemeupwhenitsallover]

Hi,

Just that really,I think its something I need to do, and I had a look on the internet and found a local lady.But not took the step in booking anything.

I just feel really apprehensive about talking to someone and what if I have no idea what to say, my head is so jumbled up I dont even no my own thoughts !!

Any words of advice would be brillxx

When I made my appointment with a counsellor, we did discuss what areas I wanted to talk about, because you need to have enough idea to know that it matches this counsellor's specialisms.

Then I wrote down a lot of the things I wanted to talk about, because I found that easier than speaking out loud about it. She could then refer to things I'd written down, and we'd go from there, and once we started talking, it was okay. After that, she could start conversation with, "Last week, we talked about X, have you thought any further about it?" or something similar. I still see her, and we've talked about so many things that I never imagined were at all relevant to why I originally wanted to see her, but there are actually links and triggers I'd never spotted.

The fact that you're thinking about counselling suggests you must have some reason for it, there's something you want to work through, so that should be your starting point, be it marriage, children, parents, food, work, friendships, self-esteem or whatever (and quite probably it'll be more than one, as the different areas of our lives don't exist in isolation.) Counsellors will be used to people who don't know what to say and who have everything all jumbled up - it's part of their job to help you do some of the unravelling, so don't worry about being jumbled up.