Hello,
Seeking some advice. I have been seeing someone for about 3weeks. when we met the connection was very strong and tbh I immediately thought about a ling relationship. . I think we both did.
Anyway I was out of work when we met and still am. I hate this as it means its difficult to relax or do anything too datey. We have, though, had by far the best times cooking together or just walking around together.
I had an opportunity to go to a city and stay at a friend's I have made it a mission to look for work. She came with me first night, bought me food for a week (bit patronising oerhaps but she did eat a good chunk in two days!)
I guess I had tp get over my pride a bit over that.
Anyway last time we saw each other I was pissed off about looking for work. Had cold responses from agencies and nothing back even when offering to work f oh r nearly nothing. It also brought up feelings of unfairness and injustice as well as me feeling humiliated that I have so little possibility if startibg a family if I can't get a reasonable job.
She was good about it, but kept telling me she 'finds me difficult to help' but I only really wanted to let off steam and have a sympathetic ear. As she kept interrupting with suggestions we ended up talking about nearly nothing else.. but did get back to being nice to each other.
Anyway she was due to come and see me this weekend and do free things..which would have been great, but shd calked and said she had things to do that meant she couldn't. Then she called me to say she was sad because we won't see each other. We hadn't decided not to see each other..she had.
So I said that I did want to see her.. but if she was going to decide that we weren't going to see each other I couldn't do anything about it
Anyway then I got a long conversation on saturday night about how bad she was feeling etc etc. I had intended to go out, and did.
Anyway I have read this as her doing a dramatic /jealousy inducing thing of 'you know I said we were meeting at the weekend well I am doing something 'else' ( as further background she did say that when she meets guys even if she finds them dull she normally sleeps with them). I don't think I had the reaction she wanted because I was like 'ok' (again there is nothing I can do if she wants to be like that)
I wonder if I am right to feel that the Saturday night call was a 'I will make you feel miserable before you go out' call.. it sort of worked.. what do you think??