Dealing with post infidelity

[SomerzetMun]

I have been suffering from depression and low libido since 2 emergency operations in 3 months. My DH by way of support started sexting and emailing online with other women. I found out when I discovered an enormous mobile phone bill. We have been together almost 20 years.

He has moved out now but I left feeling humiliated, alone and abandoned. I will admit to quite a lot of anger as I have done nothing to deserve being treated like this. I am struggling to cope at the moment and have had some days I just cry all day. I am waiting for a call back regarding therapy thanks to my excellent GP.

What I need is legal advice(DH is saying he will have no choice to sell the house) and any other avenues I could try for help/support

So sorry this is happening to you. I know a brilliant solicitor in the westcountry. I can PM you if you are this way? It may not be his choice to keep or sell the house.
Don't wait for call back keep on to Drs.
Crying all day and angry are both OK. No you haven't deserved this to happen to you,but try to do tiny things every day to start your new life.Move things around in the house, go for walk, pick a couple of good friends you can cry to.
It is crap at the moment but you will survive. Mine was 2 yrs ago and we were together 35 yrs married for 30. Tough times and brilliant times ahead for you my lovely.xx

Thanks for the message, feeling a little stronger today, taking it day by day. H is being more sensible when we talk and for now he has stopped saying he's going to sell the house :)
Taking advice over this week from Relate and the Mediation Service hopefully they will be able to see a way through

Glad you feel better, word of warning I used to feel good if we'd had good contact and lousy if he'd been horrid - don't copy me
Take control and do what you want about the house/finances etc or you will always be up and down depending on what the says.
Get all the advice you need and make decisions based on that not what he says!