I've been with dh for 14 years, married for 11. We get along pretty well but he doesn't get on with my son who is his step son. My son is 13. Dh and I have a child together who is 8.
Dh gets at my son a lot - usually over food issues - dh is neurotic, touchy, loves being miserable and complaining about things, a hypochondriac, avoids doing stuff and generally a bit stressful to be around.
If I fall out with him, he takes it out on me by having a go at my son. He shouts, nags, controls etc.
It's dragging me down 
I take citalopram to help me cope but they only do so much of course.
I've helped dh out a lot in the past and this is the thanks I get. I feel very angry about it. I feel totally oppressed. Dh is fine with his son, but me and my son just get constant 
from him. I don't really like or respect him anymore.
I don't want a divorce or to meet anyone else. I can't be bothered with all that.
I have the opportunity of renting a nice flat for a decent rent each month that I would be able to afford if I did a few more hours at work. My son would be so happy if we left. The flat is just up the road so ds2 could come and stay when I'm not at work. I do shifts so would need dh to look after him whilst I work. I couldn't have ds full time.
No extra hours are available just yet at work but will probably be available at some point in the future or I could boost my income with agency.
I feel scared at the thoughts of this but don't see how I can continue feeling so miserable and resentful. If dh goes away anytime I feel so happy and free. I can laugh and be silly and the dcs are happier. This isn't how things should be is it?