My parents split up when I was 8, I'm now 22. My dad lives with his partner (my SM) a 15 minute drive away, they have 1 car which my stepmum uses for work, dad is unemployed and has easy access to public transport, they're both in their forties and neither have any mobility issues etc. The reason I've told you this is so you know how close he is and how able he is to visit.
He's always been a bit lax where christmas is concerned, not bringing cards etc until a week or so after the 25th, with birthdays he's usually better, turning up within a few days of the big day. But in the past 2-3 years he's been getting worse with them. He's spent my whole life breaking promises to me and my big sister, ('I promise I'll take you to the fair next year' next year came and he'd say the same) I'm used to being let down by him, but other than the broken promises he'd been a great dad.
It was my birthday on 16th June, my DD's 2nd birthday on the 17th June. On my birthday he wrote 'Happy Birthday x' on my Facebook and that was it, I haven't heard a thing from him since. He told my sister he would come over on the bus on DD's birthday. He didn't. I didn't bother with his birthday which was last month, just put the same message on his Facebook that he left on mine. I still have his Fathers day card sat on the drawers!
He always seems to be in town though! I often see his car parked in the supermarket carpark and driving around. He goes to my sisters quite a lot too.
I just don't know what to do. I just can't be bothered with him anymore, we used to make an effort to go and visit him for birthdays but when he didn't reciprocate with ours we stopped. I'm fed up of making the effort and not getting anything in return.
It's my little sisters birthday next week, she's 7. We'll have to visit, but I just don't want to see him. I won't be able to guarantee what comes out of my mouth.
I don't even know what I'm asking. Sorry it's so long and well done if you managed to read through it all.