DH quit after one day

[CatsWearingTutus]

Four months ago DH and i moved for my job and he has been looking for work ever since. My salary is not enough to pay all our bills and we're dipping into our savings each month.

He finally got a job and started last week only to quit after one day because conditions were not acceptable. It really did sound pretty shite. Since then he has been looking for jobs for several hours each day and is applying for 2-3 each day. If it takes him another say six months to find something we'll survive but any longer and we will have run out of savings and be completely stuffed.

I'm having a difficult time not being angry with him. I don't want him to be miserable but at the same time think he could have stuck it out until he found something else. But at least this way he doesn't have to put it on his cv and have to awkwardly explain it. But four months is starting to look like a big gap on his cv too.

He did move for me and left behind his job (which he hated anyway) so I am grateful for that. We don't have any DCs.

Are you claiming everything you are entitled to? Jobseekers allowance, housing benefit, WTC, etc?

I would be really pee'd off too Op... I understand why you are..

With regards benefits, is he even allowd to claim if he resigned?

I'm with you cats, if money is short he should of held onto any shit job while he found a better one. Maybe, being a bloke, he hasn't actually thought about the consequences of using up the savings?

Massive red flag.

Just how bad was this job ?

Was he at risk of any harm? That's the only reason to justify packing it in to sponge off you. And he hated his previous job ... time for serious words

What finallygotroundtoit said.

Surely any job is better than no job??

Really irresponsible of him. Many jobs seems terrible on the first day. Most people manage to stick it out a little bit longer to make a judgement on what they are really like. He has no staying power and he is relying on you to support him. He's not exactly going to have his pick of jobs if he has no recent record of working, is he? He needs to work his way up and show he can stick at something.

Yes I'd be worried too. Really cut back on the spending if you can and also, it is possible that he feels resentful of giving up things for you and now feels, well it's all her fault anyway, let her support me for a while? If so, that needs to come out because he is an adult and could have said no.

I'd cut back on stuff for him too and if he asks why, tell him.

I went out with a man who didnt do all he could to get work and now I am in a situation where I am struggling with very little saved where before I had five k in the bank.....and all because I did not heed the red flags at the beginning such as him suggesting I buy him a new iPod and then I could have his, lucky me!! Manipulative bastard!

Well, I'm pretty much over my anger. He is spending several hours a day applying for jobs and had a call from a recruiter yesterday about a better job than the one he left. It did sound horrendous and yes somewhat dangerous as well. Also he stayed in his last job over a decade so he does have staying power! Thanks for being tree for me when I needed to vent. It's always so helpful to come on here and pour everything out.

tree = there, although trees are nice, too!