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Feeling left out

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Scattynicky · 08/08/2013 00:17

I have been with my partner for 8 years, living together for nearly 1 year. Both have 2 children each from previous marriages. My problem is that when his girls of 21 and 23 are around, he treats my daughter and I like we are nothing, this is becoming so apparent, my daughter of 14 notices. When they are not with us, he is normal and lovely. I have tried to ask, but he gets angry and abussive towards me. These girls are both leeches and only use him for money and anything else they can get.
He left them when the eldest was 13, and i think he has guilt issues. Has anyone else been in this situation, I find myself alone and crying quite a lot, with no one I can tell. I am writing this downstairs, while he is asleep not caring he has upset me.

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springytooty · 08/08/2013 20:29

Abusive? How is he abusive, what does he say/do?

sorry you're so cut up about this OP

something2say · 08/08/2013 20:32

Sounds like he has issues like you say, around having left them years ago....x

myroomisatip · 08/08/2013 20:40

That is abusive. My Ex started to treat me badly whenever he had his family stay at our home. The abuse escalated with time :(

It is not right that he treats your children, and obviously you, that way, and it is not right that they see him get away with it. The behaviour of my ex has had a dreadful effect on our children and I will always feel responsible because I was so scared of him it took me years to leave.

If you cannot sit him down and discuss this sensibly it is because he really does not care and, with my own experience, I would end it now because I really do not believe it will get any better. Sorry.

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