My MIL has always been very overbearing but it didn't bother me until I became pregnant. She has tricky family relationships and is virtually estranged from her daughter, my husband's half-sister.
She behaved terribly last summer, shouting hysterically at me in front of my then 13month old when my husband and I insisted on parenting our way. She actually said "no, I do things my way, not yours".
Anyway, I read Toxic Inlaws and worked hard to set boundaries. Last summer she came storming in saying "I'm very angry you are only staying for 3 nights". My response was to stay for only one night or do day visits.
The other night she got very angry with my husband on the phone because although he is going on holiday with her, I am unable to, due to work commitments (hurrah!)My little daughter will be staying with me as I would find it hard to let her go abroad without me.
My husband accepts all this but is so weak when his mother shouts at him. She was yelling that we don't visit enough, even though we had been there the night before, and she had been at our place 2 weeks earlier. My husband had also visited her twice during the last 2 weeks.
We give an inch, she tries to take 5 miles. My lovely husband and I end up fighting. He says if my parents behaved badly to hm he would put up with it and never complain but my parents are never intrusive or rude so he just doesn't know how I feel.