name calling during argument

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This hasn't happened for ages but i was interested to know other people's opinions on the subject. During bab arguments do you call dh, or does he ever call you insulting names(eg, bstard, btch, etc)? me and dh are very careful to control our language during arguments now because of the hurt that calling eachother horrible names causes

No I don't do name calling in arguments with dp or anyone for that matter. Things said in anger have a habit of coming back to bite you on the arse ime.

I've been known to call Spiderman a f**ing tosser and to tell him to eff off. Like feisty we have the odd big bust up, shout obscenities at each other, then make up.

My mum and dad never argued but just simmered quietly for years then split up one day, which was horribly confusing for everyone around them.

I'd much rather let off steam now and again.

In a huge row, I call dh a few nasty things...b***d, and selfish git, comes up a lot - amongst others!!! To be honest, he provokes me because he won't argue back. He sit's silent and ignores me. Still, our arguements are not often and are over fairly quick, with great make-up sex afterwards

i never swear and we have rational discussions at all times. never would i use bad language to my life partner.

We don't name call but our kids do have fruitshoots

YEs we name call in big blow up rows - they aren't often though and it's jsut a way of letting off steam. Both of us knows we don't really mean it - very childish of course but makes you feel better in the moment!

no thinking about it we don't namecall (but I do quite a lot of swearing at him when he's not there iyswim). But then he's a sulker.

"Hour 12 in the Big Sulk house and Meowmix is still getting the cold shoulder from DH.....>"

Namecalling says more about the one doing it than it does about the to whom it is directed.

"Hour 12.29 and Meowmix has been forgiven in the House of Big Sulks." He did call me a moo tho... hmmm

havent read this...just have to say ...in a confessional knda way...

i am the worst ever...laways first to turn a row into a stinking slanging match ...

i cant print what i say...but you name it ive said it...foul and fancy together is my speciality....big long ranting cursing vicious sweary fits of rage!!!

ahhh...im cleansed

Ds is a sulker and he never swears or name calls. I have told him to f*k off a couple of times but have felt really bad about it as he is so 'polite' in an argument and has complained about my language so I try really hard not to do that any more.

I do swear quite a lot generally in that 'oh s*t sort of way and don't really have a problem with that but really bad name calling is something that my xh and I used to do and in retrospect it was really bad for our relationship in the long term. Things got said that couldn't really be taken back and over time as this happened more often our respect for each other wore away and when that was gone it was impossible to get back.

As a result I try really hard to fight fair (though it is not in my nature) which means no personal insults and no dragging irrelevant stuff up from the past. Hard to stick to but I do try.

Dh sticks to these rules but then getting him to fight about anything is like pulling teeth - he generally retreats and sulks but he is getting better with that too.

I'd rather have a big slanging match lasting 10 minutes than someone who sulks for days - God, that would drive me nuts. At least our arguments are over before they have barely begun.