I found out 6 weeks ago that OH (now XP) was having an affair with someone from work. It was an EA with only 1 physical interaction but I confronted him, told him it was over and we started making preparations for him to move out (can't move out until September so has continued to share the house with me and DS, 2). Things had been difficult for a while with me working fulltime and doing the majority of the childcare and him having depression and work problems.
We talked a lot and decided to try relate with the aim of seeing if we could resurrect our relationship or at least stay civil for DS's sake, and went to our first session on Saturday where the counsellor asked us if we want to be together in the future - he said yes immediately whereas I was more reticent.
However I think he's still continuing the affair or at least still wants to. He has a close (female) friend on facebook (who is married but has had several affairs and I have a feeling XP has always held a candle for her) and I have secretly read their messages where he talks about wanting to shag the OW and he's pissed off that she hasn't made her mind up! (I assume about continuing a relationship with him)
I have no idea where I stand or what he's playing at and it's another 10 days until our next counselling session for me to go crazy wondering what's going on!