I have had a great relationship with my MIL the entire time that DH and I were dating (1.5 years.) She was always very neutral, quite unconditional with her love and affection, would back off when we needed, help when we needed etc.
However, I married DH last week and three days before she seemed to change overnight. We were all staying in the same house (as we have done many times before) and three days before the wedding she just stopped speaking to me. Stopped greeting me in the morning (would just walk past me and straight to my DH, BIL and SIL and hug them and kiss them good morning.)
That day some of my friends came round and we had champagne and chocolate. MIL had bought some posh chocolates and some average chocolates for the wedding. By mistake I fed some of my friends the posh chocolates not knowing that they were the special ones, and in the middle of my time with my friends, MIL came in, shouted at me that I had ruined everything, took the chocolates off the table, shouted at one of my friends who had a chocolate still in his mouth, called him a pig and then ran out of the room crying.
I was mortified and followed her but she locked herself in her bedroom and would only allow DH in. I could hear them through the door, him saying 'what the hell happened?' and her saying 'she gave her friends the posh chocolates, she has no respect for me, she doesn't care.' DH was calming her down.
24 hours passed and she didn't speak to me. I tried to apologise but she didn't respond. DH said give her time, she's 'just stressed about the wedding' (MY wedding I might add.)
The day of the wedding came. MIL had arranged her own hairdresser and make-up artist who was ensconsed in MIL's room. MIL's bedroom is the only bedroom in the house that has a full length mirror, and I had asked MIL if I could come in and use her mirror once I was dressed.
When I approached her room after putting my wedding dress on (I had done my own hair and make-up) I knocked on the door and asked her if I could come in. I could hear her and the hairdresser talking so knew they were in there. I knocked again. I heard my MIL say "don't let her in."
I was pretty stressed at this point, so started crying and went to my DH in my wedding dress (he was not supposed to see) and told him to tell MIL to let me in the room. DH came down with me and MIL opened up. The first thing she said was that I had once again ruined everything by allowing DH to see me in my wedding dress, that my hair and make up was awful and that I needed to let her make-up artist and hairdresser do my hair and make-up.
DH said no she looks great, she doesn't need it, but MIL continued to insist, then muttered to the make-up artist that she did not know why she had spent so much money on a present for me when DH and I got engaged (a necklace) for me to not wear it on my wedding day.
Long story (sort of) short I ended up getting make up and hair done by her people and digging out her necklace and wearing it despite not wanting either arrangement. She sat in the chair in front of the full length mirror and I had to crouch on the floor in my wedding dress while she barked orders at the make-up artist doing my face.
What the f* has happened?
Is this a common scenario when you marry someone's son?