Facing divorce abroad - please help!

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I am living in Northern Europe. My marriage has broken down and we are separating. I don't speak the language, have no idea of the legal system and I do not want my husband to have 50/50 access to the kids as he is a bully. Furthermore, I don't want to live here anymore as my job prospects are very limited and it is lonely.
Can anyone offer any advice? We jointly own our house, I guess we will sell it. Is there any way I can leave the country with the kids (legally of course)? Please? I don't know where to turn and I know my husband is on the war path and has a very good lawyer. I'm scared.
I'm in Germany.

what I meant by that was a short holiday with H's full knowledge obviously!!!!! tell him you are homesick, it's perfectly normal

GSTJ poor you, he sounds horrible and your situation unbearable.

I have a friend who is trapped in France because her exH used French law to prevent her from moving back to the UK with the DC. She found it very very hard at first but she now has a new partner, a new house and a better job, and her life is good.

Have you arranged to see the lawyer? Even if you don't divorce immediately, it will help to know exactly where you stand should you go down that route.

i have only a moment now, but will try again later, where abouts in Germany are you? I am too and in a slightly similar situation.

She can't just pop back to the UK (even with H's permission) and then remain, being on holiday doesn't change the habitual residence status of the children, which is Germany.

I'm here too - and I would also not have a clue what to do in this situation. Just offering a hug of support. I do have a friend who is American, who is happy with the outcome of her divorce with a German man but then she was happy to stay here.

See if you can get an authorised trip back to England just to get your spirits up and get some support.

I do think he will have to give you spousal support until your 1 year old is 3. It's to do with KG age and being able to work.

Could he in theory work in Germany?
Main thing is to get a solicitor's advice.

I am not married but living with not so DP in Germany, he is German, kids have British passports and weren't born here. (5 and 3) I left him a year ago for 6 months to a third EU country, but with his permission, but after coming back and him doing rehab and sorting himself he has, in last 2 weeks resumed his drinking habit, and so now, I have to leave him as i said i would if he started again. I don't believe he would give me permission to leave Germany with the kids so looks like I too am stuck here for next 13/15 years. :( I hate it here, as he knows, but I do at least speak some German and was looking to start work again anyway this autumn, and i know i can manage just fine without him, though financially it will be, maybe, a struggle. I am in Southern Germany if I can be any help? PM me.

I'm in NRW if I can help.