Introduction, boyfriend to my DD

[dollarmermaid]

Have been seeing boyfriend for just over a year now, would like to introduce to my 5yr old DD but logics are proving hard to plan, know it needs to be casual and in public, but that is far as I have got, please any ideas

I'm building up to meeting my DP's DD also 5 in a few months so will be reading with interest:

Things I have read thus far:

1. Keep it a defined event - with a clear end (e.g 4pm) so your DD has time to reflect and not feel pressured in any way to accept him.

1. Make it fun - this allows your DD to associate him with fun.

1. Avoid overt shows of affection, but don't necessary act too different around him. children sense discomfort and she could mistake this for your being uncomfortable around him.

1. Don't let it drag on- for both DP and DD. once she is tired she may be cranky and you do not want DP to see the worst in her, like wise DD to see a tired DP.

Good luck

PS- set ground rules with your DP, this is just as important. Get him involved in planning the day, turn it into a fun coupled exercise.

If your DP has no DC of his own, don't assume he understands how to do it. You do need to teach him to suck eggs and each child id different so teach him the things that make your DD tick. Praise, singing, goofing around whatever that make DD laugh.

Tricks with children:

Do something where he is at the same eye level as your DP. e.g - picnic where your DP is seated on the floor.
Also a good trick - do something where he has to help build/make something.

Finally - watch him carefully. really listen to what your DD says during and after. Be ready to stop the day immediately (agree this with DP, so no one gets hurt)

NB: I had my 2 DS's meet my DP and seeing them now, treat her as one with me is the best feeling ever

Final note: Really look at your relationship now, review and consider if he really is a long term partner, have you let any red flags go, do you really get a lot from the relationship.