divorcing an ea and va husband with no solicitor

[pinkkoala]

Has anybody done this and how did it go, i am unable to afford solicitors fees as only work part time, i have an 8 yr old dd and i think he will contest everything. Or has anyone used an online site, i just want it done asap as i can not live like it anymore.

It can be done for £500 but you'll get nothing, I'm pretty sure toucan get him to pay the costs or pay the solicitor out of your settlement. Call around a few but the worse thing that you can do is turn up in court with no representation or advice, the other side will wipe the floor with you.

Do you need a settlement? If so, you need a solicitor. Is there still legal aid? Will there be enough from a house sale to pay a solicitor. Ask at citizens advice bureau. Someone else on here will know more. Chin up and good luck.

Women's aid may be able to give some advice/ pointers

I don't know when legal aid is available anymore but in your situation as someone else suggests I would call round a few local solicitors and ask briefly explaining the situation as they may be able to help or at least be aware that you have financial constraints and need to keep to a budget.

Op I am pretty sure that you are entitled to legal aid due to the abusive nature of the relationship.
I'm in similiar situation and receive legal help as they call it but for me it only covers the divorce itself and not associated matters but it is still worth having a professional who will advise you on other matters related.
Stay strong and keep posting

.

If VA means violent abuse as in physical abuse then you may well qualify for legal aid. Here are the criteria:

www.salmonssolicitors.co.uk/pages/divorce_and_separation/divorce_legal_aid.php

pink i'm almost done now with my divorce of my abusive H. I used a solicitor, but having seen the process through one time, I feel far more confident that if I ever needed to do it again (ha ha!!!) I'd be able to do it on my own.

It is doable. There's a legal board here for specific questions, and wikivorce is really good as well.

The difficulties come when trying to get a financial settlement - that's the point at which you're at risk of getting bullied. The actual divorce you could certainly do. Good luck.

Sorry for not explaining, va meant verbal abuse

I'm doing it now! Found all the forms online. Had some free advice re likely settlements. I'm going to pay to get the consent order for finances drawn up professionally as I don't want any loopholes later but the quotes I've had for this are only between £200-£300. You obviously have to pay the fees for filing the divorce petition and subsequent applications for any consent orders but other than that, it's fairly straight forward.

A lot will depend on how co-operative your stbxh is. Take as much free advice and choose where you spend any money e.g. the divorce petition is very simple to complete so you could probably do that yourself but arrangements for money or children might be more complicated.
I found lots of solicitors want to do the whole thing (for £1000s!). I've had to persevere to find firms who will agree to just do the individual pieces of work on a stand-alone basis but a few hours on line and on the phone have done it.
Good luck!