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DW has depression? Finding it hard to understand

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MoonlightPicnic · 04/08/2013 20:48

I've been married to my DW for about 16 months, prior to this we were in a very happy and relaxed 6 year relationship. DW is 23 weeks pregnant (planned) and has suffered more then her fair share of aches, pains and morning sickness. Although I'm overjoyed that DW is pregnant she seems to really dislike that she's conceived. Several times she's told me that she wished she'd have had a termination and she'd have gone out, done it and not told me. The other day she told me if she could have it "cut out of her" she'd have been more then happy. I realise that all the pain she's been having might have been prompting this, but I was still a bit shocked. A lot of her time she spends staring into space when I ask her what the matter is she just replies on a quiet voice "I don't feel well". She has been like this throughout the pregnancy and I'm sure was withdrawn at times prior. Today I went to play golf with my brother and see my family (they live about 30 mile away and it's the first time in a few weeks). I left at 10 (ish) and was back at 18:30. A massive argument ensued with her saying that she was lonely and had no one to talk to. She has friends and family nearby. I hate that she's been feeling ill and love her regardless, but I'm having real problems with coping with such a personality change. Any advice would be great!

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valiumredhead · 04/09/2013 17:01

Orangina-I'm glad that's what happened in your case but on some people's cases having the baby can make no difference, that's why it's vital to seek help now and get support in place before the baby comes.

orangina · 04/09/2013 17:08

I agree valium, I was really worried about it (possible PND). And the OPs wife does need help. No-one would prescribe me ADs when I was pg, but I was looked after and listened to, which helped me realise I wasn't actually nuts (though the tap continued to drip drip drip inside me.....)...

MoonlightPicnic · 07/09/2013 22:39

Thank you everyone you've been a lot of help. DW has been a lot better over the last few days, but will be having a chat with her GP next week.

The stables, I fear,will be an on going issue.

I'll keep in touch to let everyone know how things are going....

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