I have been with partner for almost 4yrs, have a wee man, not planned, and a daughter who has learning difficulties and social issues. Was going to move in together a few years ago, but put off as had issues with his kids my kid not getting on, then other issues followed, by the time i realised my daughter only had a few years left to finish primary school and what was the point of moving her as she has special needs too. Now since i have had the wee man, i have noticed little things that are starting to annoy me big time. Unfortunately he is going to be made redundant and we seem to be skirting issues, blew up over a job application, and i told him to go to some dept that would help him fill in forms, and his response was why should he bother, as form should have been in asap - to which i said you have till 19 august, and apparently his daughter in law knows the secretary of the firm and says it should be asap. I simply told him to stop listening to others and just get it done. Only got the form on Monday or Tuesday. I told him not everyone will have that info and will be handing in form by due date. I am now just avoiding all issues now as not in the mood for a blow up. In fact i am accused of blowing up. there are things i want to discuss, things like money etc. He is not paying me for his son, just buys as i need things, but that is not really happening as i am buying all that is needed. How do i broach that without a flair up again?