Where on earth do I go with this one?

[2sugarsandadog]

DD1 (14) being particularly horrible to DD2 (13) tonight, who's recently been diagnosed with anorexia. 'You'll be sectioned soon and it'll be the best thing for you - the nut house.'
Of course tried to comfort dd2 and told dd1 that was the most unhelpful and unkind thing I'd heard from her.
DD1 goes on to explain she'd been unhappy all day too. H had told her he's divorcing me and we'll have to sell this place to get him a flat and that would mean the dogs would have to go into a dog home too.
Scoring cheap points. I hope he does divorce me but he is completely unfazed at who he hurts in all this. I just want to protect the girls and he's just out for saving his own skin.
I feel sure there must be someone I can talk to about this (when I told H he was up there at no 1 in the lowest of how low he can go he just ignored me and refuses to talk) but I don't know who. About the girls and protecting them but also about the financial stuff. H is retired and I gave up work when I had them and although I've recently started looking for stuff there's nothing yet.

Any ideas?

Did you have any idea your H felt like this and did it come as a surprise? Why is he telling your DD? Odd behaviour.
So sorry to hear of you DD2s problem. I presume she is recieving medical help?

I think you have to have a really serious word with the girls together. Tell them that this is a horrible time for them and that you want everyone to come out of it stronger. The only way to do that is to work together as a team, with each of you having the others' backs. This is not the time to be horrible. This is not the time to be divisive. This is the time to be kind to each other and help each other and eventually you will all be happy again.

Then you need a really serious word with your husband. I would tell him quite strongly that if he messes the children around, you will do everything in your power to make his life a misery. Never mind if he doesn't answer. Tell him, then go out of the room and preferably out of the house for a while.

He's been a bullying control freak for years. No surprises there. It did surprise me he would tell dd in order (I presume) for her to tell me. He doesn't ever speak to me.

DD2 is seeing CAMHS but I did intimate to them yesterday how I thought we were getting nowhere with them.

IB he is really vindictive and cunning though. He's helping dd1 with her long-awaited bedroom revamp right now in order to curry favour. I would be scared of his horribleness rearing its ugly head in front of the girls were I to confront him, and he's never out of the house. The anticipation of his verbal nastiness worries me. And his conniving ways.

Thank you so much have to cme back tomorrow now.