XP and birth certificate

[lovemygirls1988]

hi my partner of nearly 4 yrs (not married thank god) left me when i was 16weeks pregnant for another woman - we already have a 2 yr old... he has no contact at the moment with toddler and has shown no interest in the pregnancy since he has left.

my question... does he need to be there to be on the birth certificate? i dont like the idea of putting father unknown on it and how would this work regarding to CSA? also, i know from a mutual friend that hes still planning to take his 2 weeks paternity can he do this even though he wont be there for me or the baby?

thankyou x

Hi
If you're not married the father has to be there to put the name on the birth certificate I'm afraid!! Hope you work something out! X

If he wants paternity leave then he needs to show work your MATB form. If you dont give it to him then in theory his request should be turned down.

Good point vodkajelly, although my husband didn't have to do that, he took the birth certificate in afterwards (but he didn't actually have to do that, he is in the army and it had to go on file). So maybe it depends on his boss or where he works as to how strict they are with that? He's most likely lying to them, saying that even though you're not together, he is going to be helping you out and therefore needs the time? X

oh dear! never mind... quite glad about the paternity tho if he doesn't want to be there then he shouldn't use it as a holiday x

If he doesn't ask for the form then maybe i should phone them and let them know?? x

His paternity leave couldn't start till the day the baby is born. In the circumstances, I wouldn't be rushing to tell him when it happens..

I think I'm right in saying that you can call your baby anything you like surname- wise, so you could still give your baby the same surname as your other child

having a c-section so not too sure if he knows the date... was planning on giving baby the same surname as my daughter :) just will feel really rotten having father unknown because hes being an idiot x

Do you need to write father unknown, surely they'd just leave that bit blank? He's not unknown after all!
I had a google and you can out him on the certificate if he signs a statutory declaration of parentage (ie he could do that and not have to actually come with you). Do you think he is planning to deny parentage? If a court subsequently decides he is the father then the birth certificate is amended (re-registered).
linky and other one

Yes, leave it blank - I did. No need to put 'Father unknown" - that's from the dark ages! :)