think I want to split with H

[hudsonriver1]

I have posted before. Things have been quite bad recently. We only got narried last sept. I have 2 children and his attitufe towards them has changed recently.

I sat and wrote a list of good things and bad things, only 2 good things and lots of bad. Last month he withdrew £100 from his credit card and didnt tell me.

I am really badly depressed at thr moment and I think he has made me like it if im.honest with myself.

God im in a bad place

First comment - first year of marriage is the hardest. I don't know why, just seems to be the case. That said, there's different levels of bad and only you know if its tolerable or not. Can you talk to him about what is bothering you?

Yes we need to sit and talk about it. He has gone off to work today and I have a whole day to myself and I feel so good.

Sorry OP is the lazy ass who wanted a dog then never walks it and does nothing around the house?

I think for your sake and your children's sake you have to now consider what you can do to call it a day with him. Whatever those two good things are, can they really compensate for being stuck with someone who contributes so little on several levels? Better to finish before you have a baby with him.

Thank you donkey. Yes thats the lazy ass. I cook him a meal he wanted last night and then made extra after working more hours in the day than he did and he complained cos I had 3 glasses of wine. Ok so at the mo with being so stressed I am having wine nearly every night but deep down I think its cos im not happy with him. He has golf every week, I have nothing apart from work. I am worried the wine has caused this issue but there are so many other issues too

What can you do -your own hobby? He has golf so you should have something too

I wanted to join gym but he doesnt want me to and have now taken on another child (childminder) so I dont have time to go gym now.