Why?:(

[Fairiesandvampires]

why do some men use their children to get at their stbx wife? My son is worried he won't have a home in the future(h is in the family home)and we may have to sleep on the streets, Father Christmas won't know where he is, that daddy will be on his own, sounds silly but my boy is worried:( I have reassured him best I can but why do it? I know its not the thoughts of my son, I know its been put in his head:(

But how do you know it was your STBXH ? It could have been any one of a number of individuals or groups - ie kids at school.

Sorry - and what is your relationship like with him with regard to the DC. Would it be possible for you to talk to him and discuss what your son is coming out with - from whatever source? Try and think of an approach that would ease your son's worries?

He has told me where the thoughts came from, I thought of school first but its not the case:( relationship is rubbish atm, he is not concerned that these suggestions may upset dcs. I have reassured dc and will continue to do so, I just don't understand why you would say this to dcs

Ach.

In my experience, it's because they see all members of their family as 'property' to be used as they will in whatsoever power play they desire. In this case, to make you feel bad.

Would that tie in in way with the sort of person he is?

Oh:( that would make sense.will keep up the reassurance and carry on doing what I am doing

Some of them would really enjoy hurting in many ways
Its sad

Are there any other reasonable adults in his life (on either side of the family) who you could alert to DS's fears and rope in for positive reassurance of some sort?

Done that, it's all in progress:) all I can do, like I say its just understanding why - it's not something I would do however I might be feeling:(