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9 Months until my wedding!

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TheNobodies · 31/07/2013 20:13

And me and my partner haven't even started looking!
All we have is the ceremony and a vicar! We aren't even engaged because we had to spend the money on something more important..

Doesn't seem real, can some helpful ladies make a list if what we may need or some ideas pretty please?

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 31/07/2013 20:15

What kind of a wedding do you want? A big, flashy number with 100 guests fully-catered in a posh hotel, a huge family gathering in a field with a marquee, a small formal do, just the two of you and a couple of random MNers folk off the street?

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 31/07/2013 20:17

Oh, and a word to the wise; it's not about the wedding. It's about the marriage.

chipsandpeas · 31/07/2013 20:17

surely if you have set a date then that means your engaged

mummatotwo · 31/07/2013 20:19

I'd get venue sorted immediately then work round it

Xales · 31/07/2013 20:26

Of course you are engaged. You are engaged to be married. Date is set and all. You just don't have a ring.

You have the ceremony and vicar. What else do you need? The people you love and want there and that is it? So invites. They needn't be posh or even paper. I have had email invites

You clearly don't have oodles of money so book a local restaurant for the day and ask everyone to pay for their meal as your wedding gift? Or all back to your place and all bring their own drinks and a dish for a buffet.

Congratulations and good luck!

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TheNobodies · 31/07/2013 21:06

Our guest list is no more than 50.. We have the ceremony booked which is an African Gazeebo.

We are defiantly the small and not expensive wedding couple..all we know is we want to hire a small marquee for the after do.

We have a date set but there was never a proposal.. there were more important things to pay for.

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 31/07/2013 23:17

You don't have an engagement ring, that doesn't mean you're not engaged, just that he hasn't "marked his territory" yet! .

OK, you've booked the "ceremony and a vicar" so I guess that means the Church? Actually, rereading your "African gazebo" post... More info, please.

What time of day is the wedding? This will effect the rest of your planning esp re catering.

You say about 50 guests, limited funding, and you fancy a marquee. Am I right that you're marrying in April?

Sooo... You need somewhere to put up the marquee; do you have a big garden, or do you know anyone who does who would be willing to host? NB, this is a major committment and if a friend (rather than a commercial enterprise, eg pub with field) agrees you Will Owe Them Forever. In fact, forget the friend/friend of a friend thing, look for a localish (maybe slightly rural, but not far from home) pub with a bit of ground (not just a beer garden, though you might get away with that in April) and see what you can negotiate. If the pub usually does food, chat to them about catering.

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TheNobodies · 01/08/2013 23:13

The ceremony is outside in an afrikaan styled gazeebo, its in April at Half 3.. we arent fancy people so was thinking something like BBQ style :).

I live on a farm which is rural and a beautiful place with views so we was going to have the marquee there :)

Haha, you're right he just hasn't marked his territory!

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