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He still comes home....

32 replies

twoofakind · 31/07/2013 17:09

My husband separated with me 2 weeks ago, since then he is staying with his sister but still comes home now and again for his tea and to see the kids put them to bed etc, then he goes again. I want him to see as much as the kids as possible and visa versa, and we are still friendly so don't mind cooking him his tea....We separated cause he said he doesn't love me anymore, i suffer from depression and I think thats took his toll on him, even though im now getting help for it and feeling alot better.

Anyway my question is, he says he needs time to fix his head and get away from me, but how can he do this when hes still coming here now and again, he isnt getting that chance to see what its REALLY going to be like without me and the kids full time.

Hes adament he isnt going to get back with me but I really am hoping once I get over this depression he will see a differant me and fall in love with me again....i just dont know what to do!!??? xx

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HarlotOTara · 01/08/2013 13:42

My dd has just achieved a psychology degree - I certainly wouldn't be relying on her for relationship advice. It takes many more years to train as a psychologist. I think he is spinning you a line and you definitely deserve better.

twoofakind · 14/08/2013 16:51

Ive give him enough chance to tell me if he has any feelings for this woman or if anything is happening and he assures me there isnt, its been 4 weeks today now, ive stopped cooking him tea, he just comes 2 nights a week to put kids to bed and sees the kids at weekend too. He is looking for a house to rent and we have sortd our finances. Looks like he has made his decision! xx

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hellsbellsmelons · 14/08/2013 16:57

Very pleased to hear that you aren't cooking him tea anymore.
You seem to be sorting things out and that's great.
Keep strong.

twoofakind · 14/08/2013 20:25

Nope not doin anything for him now! well apart from helping him look for somewhere else to live....sort of telling him im moving on!! x x

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dandydorset · 14/08/2013 21:41

good to hear

str8tothepoint · 17/08/2013 18:25

you still cook him tea? seriously that screams out desperation and come back home look what your missing out on. Sorry but straight to the point you need to just take care of yourself and battle the depression not because of him but for YOU and the kids more importantly. He chose to leave but you take care of your mental health for YOU and nobody else, you will get stronger and may realise that after all you can manage and have a great life, the kids won't miss out at all

onefewernow · 17/08/2013 19:01

Harlot that made me laugh. My DD also.

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